If I ever make it to the other side and I’m
talking with a friend who is infertile, I want to remember to…
- Talk about my children only when necessary. No stories about what they did that was cute the other day or how we cuddled last night at bedtime and they whispered I love you. Because it hurts even if they don’t show it.
- I will ask regularly how they are doing with all of this? And ask what this experience has been like for them?
- I won’t be scared of hearing the hard stuff, the sad stuff, and the depressing stuff.
- I will find adult only time for them because I remember how isolating infertility can be.
- I will try to say ‘yes’ to their requests for activities, knowing that it’s a sign and opportunity to offer support.
- I will listen more and talk less.
These are great things to do for infertile friends. :) I totally agree...
ReplyDeleteI have this list too. I have a formerly infertile mom friend who I wish I could give this to as well...it's like she doesn't get it anymore.
ReplyDeleteI find it to be extra insulting when an infertile forgets. It's way easier to forgive the fertile for their ignorance.
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