Parenting after chronic infertility. Our story involves working with CCRM after experiences with diminished ovarian reserve, severe male factor infertility, 4 reproductive endocrinologists, 8 donor embryos, 2 IVFs, 6 FETS, 1 fresh donor egg cycle, 1 failed agency egg donor, 15 vitrified donor eggs, 4 surgeries for her, 1 for him, 3 miscarriages, 1 chemical and 5 canceled cycles. After seven years, one amazing couple set us on a new path by choosing us to be parents for their son.
Wednesday, 30 January 2013
The Nephew is Here
I could think of a thousand reasons to be upset about my infertility since nephew arrived. But I'm not letting myself today.
He is so.darn.cute! and everyone in our family is so excited. It's a happy time. My brother and Dad are so happy and it's nice to see. I'm not sure about how his girlfriend is feeling about all of this yet. This was an unplanned pregnancy and I can't get a feel for how she's doing emotionally with all of this. She just looks so tired that it is hard to tell. I definitely don't get a warm fuzzy feeling from her. I'm hoping she's going to be ok.
We are mostly trying to be helpful and stay out of the way. I've been here since Sunday but only seen the baby twice. We went to their house and prepared for their arrival by removing the snow in their driveway, and making a family of snowmen and a snow-dog!. It was very spur of the moment and super cute. We've been sending them meals. On Thursday I'm going to take pictures of the baby.
I was hesitant to offer this but I decided to do it anyways. I think I will regret it later if I don't do it. It gives me a chance to be around them. I know they aren't able to pay for a professional photographer. I'm an amateur who has taken a few classes and has a decent camera. I want them to have some pics of him when he is so little and fresh.
I'm going to round out this week by spending it with a couple friends. They are on my drive home. We are going to shop and have dinner. I'm looking forward to it. It is with two of my favourite girl friends.
I'm thinking there could be huge-ass baby hangover headed my way next week. But for now I am enjoying him the excitement that's in the air. It feels good.
I think being "at home" with my family has helped keep my spirits higher. It's in the place I want to live. I like being here Seeing my family on a regular basis is a special treat for me. I like reading names in the newspaper that I recognize. I like having dinner with my aunt and uncle on a week night just because. I like being able to see my grandparents. I like hanging out with my Dad and seeing my Mom. I like the beautiful natural surroundings. I could definitely get used to this.
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The chance to be around family is what maybe makes it easier all around. And there's no place like home so enjoy your time there as long as you can.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on becoming an auntie! It's weird, because I find it really hard to be around other babies or kids, but my infertility worries are pretty far from my mind when I get to hang out with my niece. It's magic.
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